If we talk about our tools for coping, keep in mind that while there are pretty standard approaches from counseling or religion or our mentors and leaders, what’s in your toolbox might not be what’s in mine.
We are products of our physical and genetic selves as well as our environments and influences. Your particular makeup and experience are going to lend to your framework, your way of understanding and approaching the world. And chances are, this framework has served you well much of the time.
For your consideration, I share with you a thought about our coping tools from Abraham Maslow, psychologist, 1908-1970.
“If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.”
Here’s my challenge to you: Step outside of your framework. Be intentional, and make a point to see other perspectives, even if they’re vastly different from what your life has taught you.
I’m not saying that an approach or viewpoint that is diametrically opposed to yours is likely to make you an instant convert to this other way. I’m suggesting, however, that seeing the validity of other views, coping strategies, and frameworks can lend to broadening your own toolset. It can be a useful part of getting you out of a coping rut, or even helping you realize that in this lifetime, there is always more to learn. And learning even one new perspective or tool can be just the thing you need, even if it’s just for one moment in time.
And we consistently learn about new tools and perspectives during our PLACE peer support groups. We hope to see you there and learn from you and your perspective!
